Describe the type of conversation that would be most appealing to a time-oriented listener.
A time oriented listener would want a brief, to the point conversation.
Lucy: “Mr. Smith is refusing to accept my science project because he says my paper isn’t long enough! I just don’t understand; I worked so hard on that and now it was all a waste of time.”Peter: “Don’t worry, you can always enter again next year.”Lucy: “I don’t know why I bother talking to you, you don’t listen to a word I say!”What communication difference (or differences) led to the misunderstanding between Lucy and Peter?
Lucy and Peter’s conversation reflects the emphasis women place on emotions and the emphasis men place on problem solving. Lucy expected Peter to understand her emotions while Peter offered a solution to the problem.
List the reasons men communicate.
Men communicate in order to: share information and accomplish a task.
Imagine you have been assigned to complete a project with a classmate. Your cultural background has taught you to value collective behavior, while your partner has learned to value individual achievements. What difficulties may occur as you try to work together? What steps can you take to minimize the communication barriers in your relationship?
Write a brief dialogue that reflects the principle of asking thoughtful questions and listening to the response.
Answers will vary.
Describe a situation in which you were hearing but not necessarily listening.
Answers will vary, but may include: lectures in school, conversations with friends while distracted, not listening to instructions etc...
What is the definition of hearing?
the physiological process of decoding sounds
What steps can you take to overcome barriers created by different communication codes?
Answers will vary but could include things such as; learning a new language, trying to learn key phrases in new languages, become familiar with different nonverbal communication norms or relying on an interpreter.
“I know how excited you were to be offered the new job. It’s too bad the hours aren’t what you were expecting. Talking to your new boss about your hours before you accept seems like a good idea.”What makes this an effective response? Is there anything you would change or add?
Student answers will vary but should reflect the principles of effective responses (brief, timely, empathetic etc..)
Lucy: “Mr. Smith is refusing to accept my science project because he says my paper isn’t long enough! I just don’t understand; I worked so hard on that and now it was all a waste of time.”Peter: “Don’t worry, you can always enter again next year.”Lucy: “I don’t know why I bother talking to you, you don’t listen to a word I say!”What adjustments can Lucy and Peter each make to their communication, in order to avoid misunderstandings like this in the future?
Lucy can express that she simply wants Peter to listen and offer support, without trying to solve the problem. Peter can try to refrain from offering advice and simply express his empathy for Lucy’s feelings.
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